|This time of year always makes me think about those varied proximities a bit more. Perhaps it’s all the impromptu family visits or the time taken
to reflect on things we’re thankful for, or maybe its the influx of curious clients and certain long term regulars that begin desiring something a
little ‘more’, but I see the world around me as being filled with much more ‘possibility’.
After much thought, I’ve decided that I have the room in both my stable and heart for another full time personal slave. I have several full time
devotees and one in training, but with lives outside of me, I often find myself well aware of the fact that my days simply have a little room for
diversity. You would think a woman like me would find satisfaction simply in my profession alone, but there’s so much to be said for the depth of
connection in an ongoing BDSM dynamic.
Real life D/s relationships on the surface often look like, and typically need to function as; real relationships.
There has to be compatibility: both emotionally and in the dungeon, and there has to be room in your existence for it, but the pure emotional
and physical release that comes from all of those things falling into alignment is positively blissful.
Of course, in publicly noting my intentions, it’s vital that I also make sure a healthy does of reality is served along side so that I’m not
bombarded by suitors looking for versions of slavery that is different from what *I* personally am seeking. Your in person sessions are a mix of
BOTH our needs, but slavery - that leans more towards what I am searching for.
My desire is never to build up possibility and dash anyone’s hopes to fulfill a life long fantasy, so I’ll start by painting a picture of the conditions
my other slaves operate under, as I suspect any new member of my clan will fall under similar situations.
The very basics…
I don't just collar anyone who asks. I have loads of requests ranging from clients, fans and even random web crawlers. I've sorted through
thousands of such inquiries and often dismiss them. True suitors understand this is a lifetime commitment - I will not be collaring anyone who I
haven't spent significant time with. Like an engagement, I wouldn't ever marry someone I'd been dating a few weeks. My collar, my full time
ownership, takes at least a year or two to earn.
The lifestyle I offer you must be enough for you. I say this, not from a place where I refuse to compromise - but from a point where you don't
have to. I'm a polyamorous Mistress, this will NEVER change. If you are hoping for a one on one connection with emotional monogamy; that isn't
what my life is about. Don't convince yourself otherwise if it doesn't fit your ultimate hopes and dreams. I've been courted by those types before
and after tons of time and energy poured into mutually moving towards an S&M relationship; it was discovered that wasn't going to work. It's
heartbreaking, frustrating and unnecessary. Know yourself and what you're , be honest with yourself and your needs before deeply considering
Now, moving on...
My slaves don’t live with me: I know that’s the fantasy; a 24/7 life lived with your Dominatrix, always clad in leather and always holding a riding
crop, but I’m a realist – I need space and my home is my own. I also believe my slaves need their space too. While it might sound sexy, no one
would hold up to having a demanding Femme Domme breathing down their neck 24/7 and I certainly don’t intend on wearing a corset all hours
of the day.
They are all employed and all contribute to their Mistress – I say this specifically to draw a line between personal slavery and by the hour visits
and dissolve the notion that being a personal slave is a free pass to fulfill your fantasies without contributing back in some way.
I don’t support my slaves financially, but rather, they offer a reliable monthly tribute to help sustain, support and contribute to my ability to
practice my craft and offer them a special amount of my time outside of bookings. The time they spend with me depends more on their personal
schedules then how much their tributes run with only a small correlation, but how their time is ultimately spent with me, is also decided by me.
Not all time I spend with my slaves involves BDSM – In fairness it’s a 50/50 mix. I like enjoying the full width and breath of life with my
supplicants. Sure, I’m going to need plenty of time with them in the dungeon, but I also like going out to dinner, running menial errands, going
shopping, going on vacation, catching a movie, a coffee or simply making dinner with them at home. I need a rich dynamic that includes both
the sugar and spice of daily living. A mental and physical relationship is just as necessary to me as compatibility in the dungeon.
They all have lives and hobbies outside of me – I’ve never believed that when someone is a slave, their every thought should be on service and
submission. Honestly, I’d find that sort of dependency a bit suffocating. One of my slaves races cars and has a boat, another writes apps and
works out vigorously, another cycles and enjoys studying medicine and music and the last is has a thriving career and loves to travel. Two are
married and the others are– there’s a variety and texture to their lives that keep them balanced and I require that sort of personal complexity in
any suitor who wants to find themselves in my company. I need things to talk about with you – hobbies to enjoy with you – a life outside of me.
They are all incredibly kind, versatile, thoughtful, generous and not the slightest bit jealous of each other – I’m a nurturer at heart, not prone to
drama or conflict. I like slaves of a similar frame of mind, those who don’t feel strained to put someone else above themselves, and to not have
constant expectations or demands of what their lives should be like. As individuals, I recognize they all have their own unique wants and needs,
and as a Top – I strive to strike a balance so everyone is as happy, content and fulfilled as possible. That said, I couldn’t bring anyone into my
fold that would disrupt that balance.
It can be a hard thought for some, that I demand monogamy as a Mistress (as in you can have other sexual relationships or be married, but no
other Mistress) while I am free to have as many partners of any form as I’d like, but there are many of you out there who would agree a Mistress
is free to do as she wishes and wouldn’t think any other way.
Now, if all of that speaks to you on a deeper level, beyond a passing fantasy or something you might grow out of once the novelty wears off – I’d
encourage you to make that known to me. I am looking for life partners here and I know this will take time and patience. Talking about it doesn’t
change our dynamic at all, it simply opens a door of possibility.
Logistics being what they are, I tend to choose individuals that I’m already seeing on a professional basis, that’s not exclusive to people I’ve
already met, but I wouldn’t encourage anyone to seek me out professionally ONLY because they are hoping that will come to be something
*more* in the future.
I can’t force, promise or lead anyone on that a relationship is definitely going to happen, it simply has to be genuine and thoroughly organic.
|If you've been directed to this page, or have
stumbled across it on your own accord, it's because
you have a deep, undenialble craving for something
Every 6 months or so, I've autopublished a version
of this entry to my blog as my search continues.
You see, as much as I am a Professional
Dominatrix, I am also a 24/7 Lifestyle Mistress.
In my off time, my heart tends to lean towards
the satisfaction found in true, genuine, service
and devotion. I don’t think I’d be nearly as
fulfilled as a Woman if I didn’t have such a
thriving stable of collared and very well
cherished slaves in my orbit…it’s really just
something I’ve always *needed*.